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Aha Moments

Sometimes those moments of instant insight or discovery come from the most unlikely places.  As a lover of people’s stories, I really enjoy TED talks.  Here are my favourite monthly TED talks:

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Month TED Talk Title (hyperlink to the video) Speaker Kath’s comment


November 2018 Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved Esther Perel This is an excellent talk for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.  I feel her every sentence is loaded with insights and opportunity for learning.  I love how she ends her talk in the last 20 seconds by saying ‘all of us are going to have 2-3 relationships or marriages – and some of us will do this with the same person’.  Powerful stuff!
October 2018 The little risks you can take to increase your luck Tina Seelig Do you think you can increase your luck?  Tina shows us that ‘Luck’ is rarely a lightning strike, isolated and dramatic — it’s much more like the wind, blowing constantly. Catching more of it is easy but not obvious. In this insightful talk, Stanford engineering school professor Tina Seelig shares three unexpected ways to increase your luck — and your ability to see and seize opportunities.
September 2018 I’ve lived as a man & a woman — here’s what I learned Paula Stone Williams I found Paula’s talk engaging, funny and insightful.  She shares insights from experiencing both ‘sides’ of the gender continuum.  Her most valuable gift to me was her line: ‘the call towards authenticity is sacred, it’s holy, it’s for the greater good’.  I have such admiration for people who live their truth, against all odds.  It also makes one really think about “what we don’t know about what we don’t know” – being willing to listen and being willing to honour another’s journey.
August 2018 How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps Christina Wallace I’m sure that, like me, you have some gorgeous single friends who entertain you with their stories of online dating (you know who you are 😊).  I so enjoyed this TED talk and thought that Christina’s strategy and insights should be shared.  I know if I was single, I’d be all over this!

I could have kept this one for February, but that’s just way too far away.  Who knows… if you’re single and follow Christina’s advice, perhaps you’ll have found ‘your person’ by then.  If you try it out, be sure to let me know how it goes!

July 2018 Inside the fight against Russia’s fake news empire Olga Yurkova This is a slight deviation from my normal type of TED Talk, but a really interesting and important topic for all of us.  Especially given the times we live in and the growth of the fake news phenomenon.  How do you identify ‘fake news’?  Are you aware how prevalent it is?  Olga, in her beautiful Ukrainian accent, packs so much value into this 5 min video.  A must watch!
June 2018 Where joy hides and how to find it Ingrid Fetell Lee I have always been fascinated by creative people, and here we have a creative person fascinated by joy.  What causes it, where it lives and how to find it.  And the wonderful thing is, that once you know what you’re looking for, you’re much more likely to see it, find it, and feel it.
May 2018 How to practice emotional first aid Guy Winch I love Guy’s quiet way as he speaks the truth about emotional well-being, and how we often neglect our ‘personal emotional hygiene’.  He touches on important issues like loneliness, rejection, failure, low self-esteem and battling negative thinking and gives some practical ways for us to build our emotional wellness – which in turn helps us to thrive.  How would you fair in an annual general psychological check-up?
April 2018 The brain-changing benefits of exercise Wendy Suzuki If you’re in the midst of the Easter chocolate binge – then this talk is for you.  Need some motivation to get moving?

Want to transform your brain today?  Protect your brain from Depression, Dementia and Alzheimers.  Make yourself more resilient and healthier.  Boost your mood and memory!

Yes, Wendy does get quite technical about the brain – but we’ll forgive her – she is a neuroscientist after all.  But watch right to the end as she gets people moving!  See you at the gym!!

March 2018 Do schools kill creativity? Sir Ken Robinson With almost 50 million views of Sir Robinson’s fabled 2006 talk, I’m not alone in thinking this one of TEDs best talks!  Some sound bites include, ‘If you don’t know… have a go’ and ‘Forget your fear of being wrong, and risk being original.’  I also just love his sense of humour!

Perhaps you’re one of the 50 million previous viewers, but have you seen his ‘follow up’ talk 4 years later called ‘Bring on the revolution’ where he starts ‘As I was saying…’

A knight to watch tonight!

February 2018 Are you a giver or a taker? Adam Grant As we enter the international month of love, do you consider yourself to be a giver or a taker?  A gem in Adam’s talk is the idea of the ‘5-minute favour’ and I just love the idea of ‘Pronoia’ – of plotting people’s wellbeing!
January 2018 The future we’re building — and boring Elon Musk (interviewed by Chris Anderson, TED’s Head Curator) As 2017 comes to a close and we look forward to 2018, I want to share this TED talk with Elon Musk with you.  Talk about having a vision for the future – and things to get excited about!

I know it’s longer than most TED talks, but if you’re like me, you can’t get enough of Elon!  I love the way he tackles/ignores boundaries and “can’t possibly’s” – and rather tackles the ‘how’ and ‘how long’, quantifying his dreams to guide them to a new reality. The fact that he’s South African is the cherry on the top!

Happy New Year to you all.  Wishing you a visionary 2018 and lots of fun on the way to your dreams!

December 2017 Try something new for 30 days Matt Cutts Within days we are relocating to my home town, and I am so excited!  Dealing with change is an emotional rollercoaster, scary but also loads of fun – and we feel very alive!  Matt’s short talk reminds me that one doesn’t have to make huge ‘relocation’ changes to learn, grow and feel alive.  What have you always wanted to try?  Why not use the last 30 days of 2017 to try it out.
November 2017 10 ways to have a better conversation Celeste Headlee I love this straightforward practical guide to becoming more conversationally competent.  Would you like to connect with people better, be present and make people feel deeply understood?  Always remember you have something to learn.  Listen with the intent to understand, not with the intent to respond.  Do this and be prepared to be amazed!
October 2017 How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes Adam Leipzig I was pretty sceptical when I saw the title of this talk.  How could one know your life purpose in 5 minutes – impossible!  But grab a pen and paper and hold onto your hat, as Adam packs a punchy, eye-opening 5 question process into 10 minutes that will take you places!  I can’t wait for the next person to ask me ‘so what do you do’…
September 2017 The happy secret to better work Shawn Achor In Shawn’s fast-paced and funny talk – he challenges us to focus on the positive, on being an outlier – a ‘weirdo’.  He says, ‘it’s the lens through which we view the world that shapes us – and if we can change the lens, we can change our reality.’  He packs so many great, practical and manageable suggestions into the last 5 minutes – I dare you to start doing just one.  I just love love love the science of happiness!
August 2017 What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness Robert Waldinger They say hindsight is 20/20 – so benefit from the insights of this amazing longitudinal study and create your best life.  The punchline?  Good close relationships make us happier and healthier.
July 2017 Why you should define your fears instead of your goals Tim Ferriss I really like the way Tim changes my perspective here – his ‘fear setting’ technique is logical, practical and useful – helping one assess options of action and inaction. It makes me think of Roosevelt’s quote “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”.
June 2017 The art of being yourself Caroline McHugh Oh wow.  I did not expect this one to be so good!  I feel like I need to re-watch this every week to motivate me to ‘be me’.  How inspiring to focus on being ourselves, in all our unique glory – larger than life.  It isn’t always easy, hence the title ‘THE ART of being yourself’ – but what a worthwhile journey… to ‘swallow the moon’.
May 2017 A new plan for anxious feelings: escape the custard! Neil Hughes Neil takes on the anxiety-provoking task of delivering a TED Talk to model and share how to deal with anxiety! I find his bravery, insight, humour and practical suggestions on how to deal with ‘custard’ – fantastic.
April 2017 ‘How to use a paper towel’ Joe Smith This short and amusing talk has an April Fool’s Day quality to me – but isn’t it amazing how such a simple thing (that we can all do easily every day) could change the face of our forests and planet.  So please remember to ‘Shake’ and ‘Fold’!
March 2017 Grit: The power of passion and perseverance Angela Lee Duckworth I love the word ‘Grit’ – meaning courage and resolve – it sounds tough and unyielding as it escapes between the teeth.  What struck me about this talk, is that you can only really show grit when the chips are down.  Your strength of character, passion and perseverance doesn’t always shine through when it’s plain sailing.  So the next time you hit a roadblock on your path, reframe it as an opportunity to show your grit!
February 2017 Love — you’re doing it wrong Yann Dall’Aglio February, the month of love.  I just love this TED talk, in part because of his gorgeous French accent, but for the most part, because we could all do with a bit more tenderness.
January 2017 Why some people find exercise harder than others Emily Balcetis Happy 2017!  If you are like so many who start the year with new year’s resolutions, only to have them dashed by the end of January – you may enjoy this talk.  So wishing you a wonderful year ahead with clear vision and SMART goals.  And remember to… “keep your eyes on the prize”.
December 2016 How to make stress your friend  Kelly McGonigal As we head into one of the most wonderful but stressful times of the year, I thought rethinking how we feel about stress would add some time to our lives.
November 2016 Your body language shapes who you are Amy Cuddy I love the idea that something as simple as power poses – accessible to all – can change the course of an event, a speech, or perhaps even a proposal.
October 2016 How to speak so that people want to listen Julian Treasure For Julian’s mother, in honour of October.  I feel he has mastered the art of speaking – so smooth, so simple, so clear.